My dearest Lydia,
I am already praying about being a gram to your children someday because I know that your dream is large and will require a village of support and I plan to be part of the village
God has gifted you and given you a heart that loves children. You have the passion, the energy, the resolve, the emotion and love to make a difference in many kids’ lives. You’ve expressed to me lately that you hope to go into social work or at least some type of field where you will be able to work with foster children.
I know of very few people your age (15) who have that heart’s desire.
You know what it is to be fatherless. You know what it is to have something terrible and traumatic happen at a young age. And you care about all children. I fully believe someday that when I look at your family picture someday it will be a picture that represents several different cultures, backgrounds, genders, socioeconomic levels, etc. And I will hang it large and proud on the walls of my home. I will support you in whatever ways I can to care for the children that are going to come into your home.
You have no illusions about it being easy. You’ve been in my public school classroom enough and gone to public school yourself in a tough town and you know the stuff that kids are dealing with and how they act out because of that stuff. You know it will take every amount of grit and determination you have…every ounce of love and sacrifice in your heart to really live out your dream. God will give you all you need as you need it. You will be required to depend on Him daily.
Schooling is not something you enjoy…and of course your dream is probably the one that might require a Master’s degree….isn’t that how it goes :). But if it does, God will help you. I will help you…flashcards my girlie, they are old school but they still work wonders
I can’t even fully imagine the influence you will have but it will be large and significant as you love children well.
I’m not even sure that you’ll choose to have children of your own. It doesn’t matter either way…you understand that children don’t have to come from you to be loved by you.
You are growing up in a community of faith that loves orphans, widows and is taking a real part in the act of fostering children and adopting them. You have loss that is a major part of your story. You have God given interests and talents and wow…I look forward to seeing how it all unfolds in your life.
You’ve collected baby clothes for a LONG time now and dream of having a big van to cart your family around in. I know no other 15 year old who loves children the way you do.
I pray that you will find a Godly man who will share this dream and passion with you. And I pray that I will be a Gram who has significant influence and gives real support and love that will help carry you on this journey.
You will have heartache, sickness, loss, sacrifice, pain, rejection, betrayal and more…I know that doesn’t sound lovely or encouraging, but you need to know and you do, what you’re getting into when you enter into caring for children in the way you desire to. But…you will also have joy, hope, love, fulfillment, meaning and purpose, peace, and amazingly beautiful moments as you realize that you’re giving away your life for something so much larger than yourself.
God will meet you where you need Him. Call out to Him. When you’re stressed or angry…call out to Him before saying angry words. When you don’t know what to do, call out to Him, He will lead you. When your heart is broken, call out to Him…He will heal you and hold you together. When you are elated…call out to Him with Praise and worship. And even when you’re not so elated…praise Him anyway and have an attitude towards life that speaks of thanksgiving and gratitude.
You won’t receive awards or be giving acceptance speeches for me to sit in the crowd and be proud BUT…you don’t need that kind of recognition. Children will rise and call you blessed. And I will be proud of you and am already each day of your life.
When you step into the actual living you plan to it will easily be overwhelming. Talk to anybody in social work and you will know that they are overworked, underpaid and stressed. It’s not an easy job. Talk to anyone who is doing foster care or adopting and you’ll know it has it’s challenges and unique problems. Anything worth doing is hard. What you plan to do is worth doing…it will be hard. We can do hard things. There will be people around you who will help you do hard things.
I love you. I love your heart. I love your God given bent and I will do everything in my power and strength to support you as you love children well.
Your momma who already prays about being a gram someday because of YOU.