You’re entering the world of being an adult…and finding that it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. School…part time job, house chores, and other expectations are calling and overwhelming you.
All of a sudden you realize what you’re headed towards and what you’ll be giving up in leaving your carefree childhood and teenage years behind and being an adult does not look fun.
You’re in that stage where it’s kind of tough. You have to take part time jobs that aren’t fun. No one gets excited about working in fast food, I promise you. But you have to get some job experience somewhere just so that you can say you have some job experience to hopefully get the next job that you might like a little better and then the next job that hopefully you’ll love.
You’ve asked me…”Mom…how do adults do this, go to a job they don’t like day after day?!”
You know my own experience and how I felt about teaching. You go day after day because sometimes you feel like you have no other options. You go because there are bills to be paid and obligations to be met. And in the going you try to make the best of it, but it’s not easy.
This is a critical time in your life when you can take a really close look, before bills are high, at what you really want to be about. In a way, honestly, I’m kind of glad to see this phase of development in your life just because I know it will force you to clarify what you want your reality to look like.
You’re at the point where fantasy jobs and dreams just won’t work. We all tell our kids they can do anything and be anything, but honestly, you’ve got to take a close look at yourself and say…what am I really capable of, what am I gifted at, what do I enjoy, what makes me come alive? And then start to head yourself in those directions.
You will not be working fast food for the rest of your life. Praise the Lord :). But this has been the catalyst to push you and direct you elsewhere longterm and that’s a good thing. In the mean time, adding to your bank account is a good thing too!
You’ve also realized real quick that money isn’t everything. Honestly, when it comes to your time and your fulfillment in life, money is not the top of the list. It’s required and helpful, but it’s not worth losing your soul over. This is good to realize. So many pursue the great american dream their whole lives wondering why it never satisfies. Money doesn’t satisfy.
So…I know it’s hard. I know you have to balance your time and not have as much time to squander, but I promise you Lauren…you are ready for this and taking tiny steps daily to become independent. This is good and natural.
Someday you will have your own car. Someday you will have your own place to live. Someday you will be in a job and career that you find fulfillment in. You will learn to balance your time. It won’t be like being a kid again. Those days are gone. But you will adjust and you’ll even find some real joy and excitement in doing things for yourself. I know this to be true because you were the girl who wanted to ‘do it myself’ when she was 2!
You will someday be in a job where you feel good about a hard day’s work. Where you’ll make friends and have influence. Where you’ll feel like you’re making a difference in the world. And where you’re able to provide for yourself in a way that will feel mighty good.
I am proud of you. I know the adjustment is not easy. And you’ve made it early, graduating from high school a semester early. But you’re doing it.
All of a sudden days off sure seem luxurious don’t they? :)
Please remember you do have choices. If you don’t care for the place where you are, check and see if it means an attitude adjustment and if it doesn’t, then start figuring out what you would rather be doing and take the steps to get yourself there. Don’t be afraid to take risks.
And in the mean time, as far as it depends on you keep yourself free. A heavy debt load or an addiction to stuff can cause your choices to reduce real fast. Be wise. You’ll be happier in the long run…promise.
Welcome to adulthood Lauren :)
Love your momma who believes in you, you’re gonna be just fine. And oh the stories you’ll have to tell to our kids someday.